London: Afternoon tea favourites

I lived in London for 13 years, enough to get quite keen on a few British traditions, and there is one in particular that I love: afternoon tea. It is the perfect excuse to indulge in eating sweet little pastries in the middle of the day, and whilst I don’t have much of a sweet tooth I do enjoy sitting around a pristine table laden with delicate china and elegant pastry trays, between a steaming pot of delicious tea and a cup of champagne, to enjoy an utterly civilised moment with friends or family.

Over the years I have fine-tuned my list of London favourites for afternoon tea, but, before we start, a little piece of trivia: some people confuse afternoon tea with high tea (in South Africa the chic-est places that offer tea call it high tea), when they are two very different meals. Afternoon tea is a light meal of bite sized tea sandwiches and savories, followed by scones with clotted cream and jam, and ending with sweet pastries, which you eat with fingers, usually around 4PM. The tradition was started in England in the 1840s when The Duchess of Bedford wanted a small bite between lunch and dinner, and it became a thing amongst the high society. High tea on the other hand was a working class family evening meal or supper, made of of meat dishes, potatoes, baked beans, basically a nourishing meal at the end of a long day at work. It’s called high tea because it is eaten on a high kitchen table.

My all-time favourite: Jean-Georges at The Connaught 

This is my favourite, probably because this is the place we came to for my birthday right after the birth of Little Madame, it was our first outing as a family of four. Things could have gone horribly wrong had she needed a feed half-way through, but both she and her brother behaved absolutely perfectly (much to the relief of the other guests who had openly gawked when they saw us arrive with a pram and toddler in tow), thanks to the colouring book and little cars we brought for Little Monsieur and the fact we had fed the baby just before leaving the house, but overall I’m a big believer in taking small children to all types of places to ensure they get used to behaving accordingly from an early age.

The setting is a winter garden style gallery overlooking Carlos Place, with stained glass panels and beautiful art work. The room is sophisticated but not stuffy, and very light: tea is served on the beautiful marble tables, whilst you sit in the plushest soft grey sofas. We came on a Spring afternoon and there were gorgeous floral arrangements everywhere. Service at the Connaught is always impeccable: think “make clients feel like uber VIPs” and dial it up a notch. The meal itself is delicious and quite unique compared with other teas in London: a classic tea menu with a twist, with South-Asian and Mediterranean inspirations and a nice addition of spices to what can sometimes be quite bland recipes. The scones come with the traditional clotted cream and jam, as well as delicious lemon curd. The cakes are very elaborate, with a lot of mousse textures and beautiful colours.

A classic London grande dame: The Wolseley

The Wolseley is the quintessential Mayfair eatery, and I would happily eat here for breakfast, lunch, tea and supper any day. I always try to come when I’m in London, and my favourite time of the year to eat here is late Autumn to Winter: I absolutely love coming at the end of a shopping spree in Mayfair on a cold and dark afternoon, it’s the perfect hang-out from which to look out onto busy Piccadilly. There are three options for tea, including a very affordable “Cream Tea” if you just want to sample a little bit of London luxury without breaking the bank, and if you’re coming with anyone who is not too keen on the full tea experience there is a broad menu of sweets and savouries to pick from. I love the Champagne Tea, and usually ask for a table on one of the balconies at the back of the room to enjoy it with a little less noise, whilst still enjoying the view of the restaurant’s bustling floor.

The menu is quite classic, but totally delicious, with warm scones at the top of the three-tier tray, under a little cloche, six cakes on the middle tier, made each morning by the restaurant’s pastry chefs, and five sandwiches at the base, washed down with a tea from the special Wolseley selection, as well as a glass or two of champagne. Remember, this place is super popular, so it’s key to book in advance, as the Wolseley will rarely have tables for walk-ins…

Perfect for tea with the girls: The Gallery at Sketch

Tea at the much-hyped Sketch in Mayfair is served in the millennial-pink Gallery from 11:30AM, and this is where I like to come with my girlfriends for an afternoon of edulcorated fun in what looks and feels like the inside of a fluffy pink cake. This place is the epitome of English eccentricity, with the egg-shaped toilets (google it, they are world famous, but the first time is a little interesting, I’m not going to lie…), the interesting prints all over the walls and the funny quotes on the crockery. The string quartet in the corner plays the Beatles rather than Beethoven, a bit of a contrast to the elevator music of most hotel lobbies.

First course is a spoonful of caviar on a perfectly poached quail’s egg yolk on top of silky béchamel sauce (my favourite course of the whole meal!), then you move on to the usual dainty sandwiches, cakes, more cakes, some shot glasses of white-peach and verbena cheesecake, as well as a giant pink marshmallow. Warm scones arrive later (by now I’m stuffed), and then a huge slice of Victoria Sponge from the trolley is the finale, if you have space left. I always come here with loads of time, as tea at Sketch is a drawn-out affair, there is the need to pace oneself seeing as there is so much food…

Best to lose track of time: The Dorchester

I have been coming to Dorchester for tea for quite a while, in fact I had my mini baby shower for Little Monsieur here, and we all had such an amazing time chatting about babies, style, and life that we totally lost track and didn’t realise we had been sitting around our teas and cakes for hours.

Tea is served in the Promenade, behind the lobby, a ballroom-sized space filled with oversized bouquets and the largest brocade sofas I ever sat on, and inhabited by the most delightful staff who all treat you like their favourite guest (even more so if you are an heavily pregnant mama fond of the Christmas stuffing sandwiches…). Everything here is classic luxury, don’t expect modern or contemporary but it’s just perfect as it is. The food is divine, especially the scrumptious scones, and the tea selection is very good. I usually opt for Lapsang, and theirs is extra flavoursome. The afternoon easily rolls into the evening, and when not pregnant this is a perfect time to move to cocktails.

Fashionista favourite: The Berkeley

The Berkeley’s Prêt-à-Portea in Knightsbridge is where you go to mix afternoon tea with fashion, and over the years the chefs have taken some of the most memorable looks from the catwalk and beyond (recently the V&A Christian Dior exhibition) and transformed them into a tasty assortment of cakes and biscuits. This is the most instagrammable of all afternoon teas in London, if you’re into fashion. The tea is served in the the Collins Room, which is decorated in Dior grey, making for a beautiful background to the whole experience.

I first came here with Little Monsieur when he wasn’t even one, and our friends had a toddler daughter, and yet both babies had an amazing time with the atmosphere remaining lively and totally un-stuffy. We did laugh at how the waiter described every cake and confection and the fashion inspiration behind it in minute detail, though he did seem to have absolutely no interest in fashion whatsoever… I come here more for the style than the food, altough it is perfectly lovely as well…

Afternoon tea makes no sense as a daily meal, but as an occasional indulgence, nothing gets quite close, and each time I am back in my beloved London I make a point of having tea in one of the beautiful restaurants and hotels of the city. One last tip before I leave you: it’s usually a good idea to skip tea in the museums and galleries, as the food is usually bought in and far from fresh…

With love, S.

Bridal etiquette 101

If it had not been for the pesky CoVid-19 interruption, bridal seasson 2020 would be about to hit full swing, at least in the Northern Hemisphere… Instead, hundreds of people are cancelling, postponing, or having Zoom weddings (this one really does leave me baffled, but hey, modern times). That said, for anyone who is still planning their big day, may I give you a few tips to help you along? After all there are a very little things I like more than voicing my opinion, so indulge me. Also, I don’t know about you all but no matter how many bridal blogs or magazines you read, my personal experience is that you’ll only get more confused, so it’s nice to have a checklist.

I got married a long time ago… in another era almost, and planned the whole event, to take place in Marrakech, all the way from London… Being quite particular about what I like (some call it difficult), I refused all kinds of planner intervention and worked at it all myself, with the help of my two loyal and ever so patient assistants, a.k.a my parents. We did everything, from researching the venues to tasting the food to finding an oriental script font for the table plan, and of course arranging for a special discount at one of the larger hotels in town (the least you can do if you’re going to have a destination wedding), organising minibuses to run throughout the night to take people back after the party. It was a wonderful week-end, but a lot of hard work, I’ll admit, so here is what I learned over that slightly traumatic experience and being a guest to many weddings before and after…

Tip One – This is not the time for last minute

Most times, people end up having to book up a whole week-end for a wedding,, so give plenty of notice, especially if you are asking people to travel far. The bare minimum should be three months. Also, don’t make two guest lists: nobody will believe that you just decided to get married two weeks ago, and still managed to secure one of Summer’s most sought-after Saturdays at the Central Park Boat House; you’ll just offend the friends who, in reality, didn’t make your first guest list and were only invited because others declined. If there is travel involved, make people’s lives easier by sending a leaflet with the invite detailing travel and hotel options, and visa requirements if any! Alternatively, a website is a great way to put everything in one easy-to-access place. The more information you give guests ahead of time, the less calls you’ll get when you’re trying to get your hair and make-up done on the big day (trust me: people will call you, the bride, on your mobile to ask directions, this isn’t a figure of speech.)

Tip Two – Nor is this the time to experiment

Ok, you’ve sent the invites, now is the time to turn your attention to a key part of the day. The party? No, silly, your outfit. Or, in my case, outfits: in Morocco it’s not uncommon for a bride to change seven times during her wedding day, so by changing “only” three times I was quite the small time player. Anyways, on the dress… Unless you’re going for traditional dress (cue me and my caftans), my advice is stick to what looks good on you, and a style that is close to what you like wearing to events. Why? Because noone wants to look at wedding pictures thinking “What was I thinking?” Bottom line, choose a shape you’re used to, and if you really want something extraordinary, go crazy on the material, embellishments…

Tip Three – Your perfect wedding lives only in your head

Most brides have a very defined image of their ideal wedding, be it a 18th century extravaganza complete with a Schönbrunn-worthy ballroom, everyone wearing Venetian masks, or a perfect beach wedding, the whole party dressed shades of wheat linen, dancing barefoot by the turquoise sea… It’s wonderful to have an idea of your perfect wedding, but remember reality gets in the way and ultimately the key is everyone is here to have a good time and celebrate your decision to pair up for life (or a little shorter, time will tell…), not to act as extras in the most Insta-worthy movie of your special day. The most important thing you’ll take from your wedding is the the happy memories you’ll have from this day. I don’t have many beautiful pictures of my day and it’s a big regret I have (read on to understand why) but we had a wonderful week-end, from the henna evening to the night at Pacha to the day itself and the Sunday brunch to finish it all off. Also, let’s touch on a sensitive subject: children… Many young couples would rather not have little monsters around, but trust me you’ll be making the lives of your guests who are parents extra hard, instead how about hiring a few local girls to babysit the children in a secluded part of your venue, complete with tots favourite foods and a few Disney movies?

Tip Four – When in doubt, make it personal

If you want a special do, don’t focus on what your friends did and how your day will have a hot air balloon, or fireworks, or a troupe of pigmey pigs to bring the rings to the altar, or whatever the trend du jour happens to be… instead focus on making your wedding personal. Two reasons. One, this is the most personal event you will ever throw so making it unique and a reflection of your relationship is key for your own memories of the day. Two, it’s likely your guests will have been to numerous weddings before so the special touches are what will make yours stand out in their memories. An example: I find the ubiquitous photo slideshow of the bride and groom a bit tacky and boring especially as it interrupts the flow of dinner conversation, so for ours I decided to make massive collages of pictures of Hubby Dearest at all ages for the doors of men toilets, whilst on the ladies doors we put collages of photos of me: it helped people see where to go and then laugh to their heart’s content at the grunge boho look I loved during my teenage years.

Tip Five – You want to look your best, not your faintest

Remember that line from the Devil Wears Prada: “I don’t eat at all, and when I feel I’m about to faint, I eat a small bit of cheese”… That is not how your pre-wedding diet should go. In fact, pre-wedding dieting should not be on, but I am all for a little detox or diet if you feel sluggish, as long as we keep everything in moderation. Extreme dieting prior to your wedding will leave you dehydrated, your skin will be sallow and you’ll feel faint by the time you want to exchange your vows (not just because of nerves and the thought that, after all, you’re not so sure you want to spend your life with this person, you can’t even agree on your favourite Impressionist). Not a good look… Instead, try switching to healthier snack and meal choices in the run-up and remember nothing will give you sculpted arms like daily reverse curls or a sleeved dress.

Tip Six – You also want to look yourself

On the topic of appearance, I have one major regret: I wish I had not given in to the pressure to use a make-up artist, or at least not one I had never used before, as I ended up far too heavily made up for my taste (think stolen truck paintwork, with three very defined colours on my lids, the wrong shade of lipstick…) I should have also insisted on a low bun, rather than give in to the elaborate up-do I ended up with: the hairdresser insisted it would showcase the diamond tiara better, and it did, but I ended up feeling like a character in some oriental version of Santa Barbara (the soap opera, not the town). Resisting all this means having a clear image of what looks good on you, something some of us don’t have in our twenties, and a good dose of character to tell your mother, godmother, aunt, whatever, nicely but firmly that you prefer your lids nude with a thin smudged liner. Instead, I ended up with hundred of pictures where I can barely recognise myself (and my daughter was looking at them the other day going “Mama, who is this lady”… point in case).

Tip Seven – Be a good host(ess)

Let me tell you a little story: I once attended a wedding where, once people arrived at the party venue, they found the doors to the inside buffet rooms closed and were asked to wait outside in the chilly Autumn weather whilst the photographer was taking endless photos of the happy couple, for about an hour… Not even champagne was served. This, to me, is the worst faux-pas you can make when you invite people, no matter what the occasion. Feeding guests regularly (eg. nibbles during cocktail hour, then dinner, then dessert, and finally a snack in the middle of the night, that’s basic) and ensuring they have a drink they enjoy at all times is absolutely key. Also, think a little bit about your seating plans, you want your guests to enjoy the conversation: mixing people who have nothing in common will be a disaster, and forget about making a singles table, that’s just awkward for everyone.

Tip Eight – Nail that registry

Your registry should also reflect who you are, so if you have no interest in formal dinnerware yet have a passion for first editions. I still believe that a beautiful china set, some crystal champagne glasses, books, and good wine are the best gifts for newly-weds, even when people have been living together a while. In addition, giving people the option to give to charity is a very good way to give back, but I am never too keen when people ask you to wire them hard cash, it’s so cold and transactional… Just remember to give options that are in line with the spending power of your guests, and take into account how far they have travelled to be with you… Also, if you think someone is being really stingy, you just have to hope you’ll make their wedding guest list so you can reciprocate in kind!

Tip Nine – Enjoy your own party

By the time our wedding started, I was slightly extenuated from all the last minute set-up and was more ready for a long nap than all-night dancing, but I did stay on the dance floor past three in the morning and I had a blast. That’s the time when a bride gets to let go (within limits ladies, a Grease inspired routine with your girlfriends is fun, but flashing your garter to everyone? Tacky…) and enjoys partying with her friends and brand-new hubby.

Tip Ten – Enjoy each other’s company

Of course you’re having fun with all your guests, some you won’t have seen for a while before your wedding, and you’re trying to ensure things run smoothly, and Uncle Tipsy has enough but not too much champagne… Throughout the day though, it’s important you take some time to spend minutes together as a couple, a dance or two, a little moment around a glass of champagne, a smile across the room when you’re admiring one of your relatives’ other-wordly dance moves… Enjoy this special day. 

It’s been a few years since I’ve been spared a 12-hour flight to go to a wedding, most of my friends are now happily paired, but I do sometimes miss it… Weddings are very special moments and meant to bring joy to many, and I hope we are all out of lockdown very soon so all these on-hold weddings can take place.

With love, S.

Fig frangipane tartlets

Afternoon tea is a great tradition, when else can you sit around a table with your favourite people (ideally) and indulge in pastries, mini sandwiches and other treats, washed down with your preferred tea blend or, even better, a cup of tea and a few glasses of champagne?! I also adore scones but to date I’ve not managed to make a recipe that I really love as much as the ones I eat in restaurants… Of course one of the added bonuses of tea is you get to bake a treat beforehand, something I find highly therapeutic. I made these frangipane tartlets topped with fig recently, and they came out so delicious I am sharing this here for some of you to try out.

Frangipane is an almond cream, with a little hint of vanilla, that is used as a filling in tarts, and cakes such as the Galette des Rois, Bakewell tart, etc. I love it with pears, figs, and even berries on top. It is a very simple recipe with almond flour, sugar, butter, and eggs (see below for full list of ingredients for the tartlets)… yes , this is a dessert, so evidently it’s rich and sweet, what did you expect? Keto-friendly frangipane? Trust me though, the tartlet in itself is light and fluffy and totally worth the extra calories…

I use a shortcrust pastry as a base, and line the small tartlet molds with it before putting them in a pre-heated oven at 180°C to blind bake until they are just short of light gold. The perfect size for this is a 10-12cm diameter mold, anything bigger will be too much for a tea or even as a dessert, given the sweetness of these tartlets.

The recipe for the frangipane is super simple and you just need a whisk, electrical or otherwise. First you mix the sugar and butter together and cream the butter until smooth, before adding the almond flour to a sandy dough consistency. Scrape the inside of the vanilla pod with a sharp knife and add to the mix (alternatively use 1.5 tsp of vanilla extract), and add the eggs, continuously beating the mixture until everything is combined. Finally mix the flour in, and you should have a thick batter, something that can be piped or spooned into the pastry cases.

I put about two tablespoons of frangipane per tartlet (it does raise in the oven), then top up with thin slices of fig (the tartness and texture of the fig slices works well with the smooth almond filling), and back into the oven at 180°C for about 20 to 30 minutes. If you’re making a big tart count at least 45 minutes for baking.

You can dust some confectionery sugar on top, but I like the look of them raw. They look like little flowers, don’t you think? Let me know if you try them how they come out.

With love, S.